HOW TO CORRECTLY MAKE GREAT MISTAKES!

Mistakes are miraculous they correct and inform us when we listen to them. However they must be created by us to work for us. These portals of discovery should be heralded as the energy behind the action taken. Being willing to make them, engage with them and own them allows us to gain the full benefits of their effect. Mistakes are the road map for progress. Mistakes may be assertive or aggressive with the energy of their actions; that "energy" should never be punished - just corrected! Disobedience is different and can be penalized because of the deliberate nature of the infraction.  Mistakes seem to get a raw deal when it comes to their reputation. One of the reasons we shun them is because they are generally treated badly. Birds of a feather tend to flock together so being around mistakes may get us treated just like them. For some reason most of us tend to hate mistakes. Sometimes not only are the mistakes hated but anyone involved in pointing them out may be hated too!  Mistakes are as common as decisions. The fact is that all mistakes start out that way. It is important to remember that everybody "makes" mistakes but we don't "do" them. The mistake is the action taken not the person who takes the action. Our competitive society equate mistakes with losing. As such our children tend to see themselves as losers if they are unsuccessful. As long as we are discussing mistakes it is important to apply some "word math" to highlight distinctions between errors and mistakes. We may call them"honest mistakes" or "tragic errors" but only the outcomes are similar.

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Errors should never be compared to mistakes except in their final results. Errors are separate, unique and distinct actions with different causes and consciousness. Errors by their very nature are difficult to recognize by those who commit them. They are defined as errors because an error is basically an ​unrecognized mistake deemed to be correct. Errors require some level of reproof to reeducate and correct assumptions, while mistakes may only call for additional application and/or guidance. "Great Mistakes" are always dealt with not buried. "Buried mistakes" are simply seeds that will spring up again as new mistakes but will have taken the form of errors. Seeds always produce the same of its kind. When Mistakes are acknowledged and embraced they take a corrected form. When errors are denied and allowed they in turn produce more errors. The very nature of an error always works against us because they are by nature deceitful. Only an error can continue to deceive us after it is exposed to truth. Even a mistake can be used for blame or weaponized against us if we don't embrace it. The biggest hindrance to mistakes is blame. Blame along with guilt and shame will prevent mistakes from teaching us lessons. To discourage mistakes is to discourage learning. One mistake we make in life is that so many of us erroneously use shaming. We use shaming as a weapon in arguments, discipline and competition. Shaming, which is another form of bullying is effectively demeaning. Shaming works by causing, making or labeling a condition/act of being or doing as deplorable. The "control we gain" through shaming comes at the expense of the "empathy we lose" through not caring or understanding.

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Lets examine a word math formulas to further define the relationship between errors and mistakes. (E=MC2) Errors are characterized by a state or condition which causes that error consistently regardless of sincerity or effort. The byproduct of error will always compound itself through repeated bad choices in conduct or judgement. In this case the "word math relationship" with errors and mistakes is affected by whether it is repeated or corrected. A mistake is an error we can "see" absent of arrogance. Errors works invisibly and always "blinds" us to our mistakes. (E=MC2) An Error is a Mistake Doubled but not Corrected.) Our formula is just like Einstein's. E which stands for error equals M which stands for mistakes multiplied by C standing for no Correction multiplied by itself (2) or squared. The "easiest mistakes" to make are the habits of thought repeated daily, like the intolerance of other beliefs. The "best mistakes" to make are the one we instantly learn from, like spitting into the wind. The "hardest mistakes" to make are the ones we cannot remedy like losing opportunity or life.  The "GREATEST MISTAKES" are the ones we string together to create our personal manual for living and understanding life.  "Correctly" making the greatest mistakes - makes life great! It may seem that we are advocating the more the merrier - and we are.  More mistakes are a by product of more experiences which in turn creates more corrections.  We must acknowledge that there is no such thing as perfection and as such improvements are inevitable corrections. We've already defined making the "same" mistake repeatedly as error. Committing mistakes openly, owning them, and addressing them is the correct and most powerful way of benefiting from them. Here's how to correctly make the "greatest mistakes" of a lifetime. First we must expect to, but not mind making mistakes. Next we have to make and recognize genuine mistakes. Finally we have to learn the lesson(s) the mistake teaches us. That's it, look for it, be honest about it, find it and feel free to make more of them; unlike the girl who never made mistakes.

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